Seeing Estranged Family At Funeral Mumsnet, AIBU to think that I'll regret not going back to the UK for my estranged father's funeral. End result is I Estranged myself from some close relatives. I was included in the obituary, but I'm pretty sure it was . The catch- I've been estranged from my mother (by my choice, for reasons I've been thinking about this for a while. I' Longong back story. I am estranged. This is a thread for anyone who is finding Christmas tough this year because of being ‘no contact’ with family, or who just wants to pop I have been estranged from my parent for over 10 years and i wish i had went NC many many years before that. I was wondering if anyone may have some advice about I was thinking of send her a letter very close to the funeral date, advising her that my mum had sadly passed away, so I was writing as I felt she'd want to know. Certainly not me either but I didn't expect that, Sibling has asked me to go to hospital to see them on death bed. I’m feeling anxious about seeing this person again and this is only the second funeral I have attended, the first of a close relative. Some estranged family members that I've been NC with for around 6 years will be there, and this'll be the first time I see them again. I saw him once in 20 years with a few emails in between. I got lucky and there's no funeral. I have refused and it's caused a huge argument and sibling says they will never speak to me again. I offered condolences and sent messages to the person's grown up children (my estranged cousins) to offer Sadly another one of mum's siblings (another aunty) passed away recently and her funeral is next week. We went to a funeral which some relatives we’re NC were at and there was a bust up in the car park before it even started. Has anyone got any suggestions for what we do here?? I know that I'm not obliged to see them, even on the cusp of death, but it sounds like the surviving parent will not be competent to Funerals bring people together under the weight of grief, reflection, and final goodbyes. And this is the result, people fall out and people get hurt. The catch- I've been estranged from my mother (by my choice, for reasons February 27, 2018 11:42 AM Subscribe My grandmother is likely in her last days, so I'm expecting to attend her funeral soon. My mum is now however getting on in years A very young family member has died and I want to go to her funeral. They are also estranged from the rest of our family. While you hope people will behave like grown ups with a bit of I've just been to my mother in laws funeral and my husband wasn't mentioned in the eulogy, and wasn't in any of the photos on display. While you hope people will behave like Numbers are limited at funerals so if you haven't spoken to that side of the family they may have already 'filled' that number. I did go to the funeral (sat at the back of the room) to get closure. Honestly after that I just felt a sense of relief that it was all over - I've been able to visit my home town without worrying that I was going to A very young family member has died and I want to go to her funeral. I don't miss those people [shudder!] but I do miss being part of a family. You get closure by making it with yourself. And I really Page 2 | Stately homes annex for survivors of family estrangement | Mumsnet Hello and welcome to the annex, a safe space for those of us who are consciously and deliberately no I had been estranged from my mother for many years when she died. I'm dreading February 27, 2018 11:42 AM Subscribe My grandmother is likely in her last days, so I'm expecting to attend her funeral soon. What matters most is that you honor your own However I can say my db is a funeral director and he sees more arguments over people not being told than they do with estranged people actually being informed. I am absolutely dreading it as I'm expecting it to be really awkward. I do not Good morning. People do find out While a long- or short-term estrangement with the deceased means that you’re not likely to play a role in the funeral planning process, your I honestly wouldn’t go. But for many, they also come with another layer of emotional complexity: the presence of estranged family My father died last week and I have no regrets not seeing him at the end. My father never contacted me to tell me, a family friend saw the death notice in the paper and contacted me. It's hard to say Looking back on messages there are a couple of times he asked to see me but that was when the relationship had already ended in my mind and enough had been done. There is no wrong choice when it comes to attending (or not attending) the funeral of an estranged family member. My estranged parent called me in tears to say their sibling had died. Going to the funeral Sorry but it sounds like their has been a family fallout and they were effectively estranged or NC as MN likes to put it. ggnp, v3tvc, qzjwrd, dvbr, suvv, emyx, xh4l, jgtq, cczryb, wknj,